Why We Should See “Spousal Resistance” As an Opportunity

3 Sep

It took me a while to read through this blogpost by Jeremy Pierre over at The Gospel Coalition Blog- not because of its length, but because of the richness of content. I didn’t want to rush it. And I’m glad I didn’t. This post is so good.

In it, Pierre expands on one of C.S. Lewis’s concepts and identifies “spousal resistance” as “the simple fact that your spouse is a real person whose very existence will not conform to the image you have of him or her.”

And rather than getting irritated or annoyed whenever we encounter “spousal resistance,” Pierre tells us why we can see it as an “opportunity.” He goes on to say the following:

Loving the original requires lifelong adjustment on your part, and this deference is a key proof of the marital love that Christians are called to (Eph. 5:21-33). Don’t be discouraged when you don’t see eye-to-eye with your spouse. Where there is no disagreement, no annoyance, no resistance, there is no opportunity for sacrifice. If we love only what is pleasing to us in our spouse, we are loving only our preferences. We don’t need the gospel to do that.

And so, Pierre implies that these many instances of “spousal resistance” are opportunities for us to live out practically the most beautiful, glorious truth in the universe, namely, that the “very essence of sacrificial love is accommodating another rather than expecting another to accommodate self.”

At the risk of sounding too obvious, this is what Christ did for us.

Click here to read the rest of this great post.


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